Lathe Lavada September 2018

Lathe Lavada September 2018

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September 2018

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THE FIRST PRIME HOME GUIDE

THE RETURN HOME Experiencing Coeur D'Alene Through My Daughter’s Eyes

In our past two editions, I’ve shared the story of how I lifted myself out of an impoverished childhood in Northern Idaho and started a family right here in Las Vegas, Nevada, but they say all good stories have three parts, and mine is no exception. When I left the mountain valleys of the Northwest, I had thrown in the towel on bitter family situations. It wasn’t until my daughter Lily was born that I realized the importance of reconnecting with the people and places that had shaped my childhood. While I had gone up to visit Coeur d'Alene, Idaho, for my brothers’ weddings and a few holidays over the years, I hadn’t visited consistently until Lily came into the world. I realized that I wanted my daughter to experience the lakes and rivers of my youth and to grow up knowing her grandma, aunts, uncles, and cousins. For that reason, our family makes

the trip up north every May for her and my birthday, and then again in December for her little brother Liam’s birthday (which, conveniently, lands on Christmas Day). While these visits started for my children’s benefit, they’ve nonetheless taught me an important lesson about what it means to return home. To varying degrees, I believe everyone has difficulties with family once they reach adulthood. My Idaho family and I have very different outlooks on life, and sometimes it feels like we are from different planets. Learning to overcome this divide is hard, but not impossible — you have to learn to stop placing your own expectations and goals on someone else. For example, one of my older brothers is about as different from me as you can get. Although he works

long hours and doesn't make a lot of money, he likes his job because it allows him the freedom to hunt and fish. As someone who felt the crushing weight of rural poverty throughout my childhood and has seen firsthand how it can permeate every aspect of your life, from your education to your sense of self- worth, it’s hard for me to understand this mindset. What I came to realize is that we’re just operating on two different paradigms for success. For my brother, living without attachments is his definition of freedom, and I can respect that. Learning not to project your own beliefs and perspectives on other people can be tough, especially when they’re family. For me, learning to understand where my family is coming Continued on page 2 ...

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CASE STUDY DARRELL WASHINGTON'S POWER TO CHANGE privilege of seeing the natural beauty that a lakeside town like Coeur D'Alene has in abundance. Now I get to see Lily running and playing with her cousins and laughing with her grandma. I get to take my daughter on hikes overlooking the peaceful Coeur D'Alene Lake and experience the place I grew up with fresh eyes. from, recognizing the experiences that shaped them, and accepting that I can’t change their attitudes has taken a huge burden off my chest. Finding that peace can make family gatherings far easier for everyone. I’m so glad I’ve found the strength to accept that and reconnect with my family on these birthday trips. My mom turns 76 this year, and both my brothers are solidly in their 50s. As I myself grow older, I realize just how fleeting time is and how important it is to give Lily and Liam these experiences. I never had extended family in my life when I was growing up. Furthermore, struggling in a poor, single-parent household, I never really had the

At First Prime Realty Group, we meet a lot of good people in tough situations. Darrell Washington was one such case. A kind, hardworking man, we could tell Darrell was going through a tremendous amount of emotional and financial hardship. After becoming a widower, he found himself in a house too big for his needs and too difficult to maintain on his own. “I was worried about selling my home, but I was going through some difficulties in my life at the time and I needed to get out,” recalls Darrell. Recognizing the need to change his situation, he reached out to us. We could tell the situation was dire; the house was in disrepair, and Darrell had been unable to make mortgage payments. “[Darrell was] a good soul going through an earnest hardship,” says Lathe. “He needed a hand up, not a handout.” So, First Prime Realty Group worked quickly to get Darrell the help he needed. On our drive home from our last trip, Lily started asking, “Where’s Grandma? Where’s Uncle George? Where are my cousins?” It was such a bittersweet moment — one that underscored just how important having these people in her life is for her. It made me realize just how important they are to me as well. If you’ve had difficulty reaching out to or visiting your own family, I challenge you to do so. Coming to a place of

understanding with family can be difficult, but so long as you maintain firm boundaries and are willing to accept that you’ll always see some things differently than they do, you can have an enriching experience reconnecting with loved ones.

Here’s to family, near and far,

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the house, he filled out the paperwork with me!” With Darrell’s cooperation, we were able to close the deal very quickly, getting him cash for his home without any hiccups along the way. When asked his opinion on the experience, Darrell says, “It was beautiful — I can’t even express the gratitude and how pleased I was.” Getting cash for his home allowed Darrell to get a place to live immediately. Lathe received a call from Darrell out of the blue almost a year later. He’d seen Lathe on TV again and just wanted to call in to express his gratitude. We were so pleased to hear from Darrell and to hear that he was doing well. He even agreed to give us a testimonial right there on the phone, saying “[Lathe] was a man of his word … If you go with anyone else, you’re making a mistake.” Thanks for the glowing words, Darrell! To hear his full testimonial, visit LatheLavada.com.

Darrell was very pleased with the sales process, “Not only did [Lathe] come by

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SILVER LININGS How I Stay Positive in Tough Times

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If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life and in business, it’s that everybody has their ups and downs. Of course, when you’re down, it can sometimes be hard to see any way to climb back up. In case you find yourself in this situation, struggling to find a silver lining, I wanted to share some of my own methods for staying positive through tough times. MIND THE GAP Business coach and entrepreneur Dan Sullivan has a concept he calls “the gap.” This is the distance between where you actually wind up in search of your goals and your ideal, and many people make themselves sick obsessing over it. “Ideal” situations aren’t based in reality and will always be just out of our reach, or so it seems. When we confuse these ideals with actual achievement, we get the sense that we’re never moving forward or making any progress. Rather than obsessing over the gap between your Ideal and what is actually reality for you once the result or goal is achieved, it’s better to take a moment to look back at how far you have come. THE ROAD BEHIND When faced with a difficult situation, I keep myself out of the gap by acknowledging the progress I’ve already made. Chances are you’ve

already overcome major obstacles and accomplished things you never thought possible. But when you’re only focusing on the road ahead, you don’t see and appreciate those accomplishments. Think of it this way: In order to drive a car effectively, you need to look in the rearview mirror from time to time. It’s the only way to ground yourself to where you are in the moment and chart your path ahead. The past, however does not equal the future. This can also be a limiting factor in moving ahead. THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU As the poet John Donne said, “No man is an island.” The most important thing to remember when you are in a tough situation is that there is no shame in asking for help. Don’t hesitate to reach out when you need support, whether it’s to friends and family or a clinical professional. You don’t have to bear this burden on your own. One of the reasons I love this job is that it lets me help people in all walks of life who are going through ups and downs. The world is not an easy place — everyone needs a leg up now and then. If your situation involves financial trouble with your home, please reach out to us at 702-476-2000. We’ll do what we can to lend a helping hand up.

INGREDIENTS • 8 slices of bread (Pullman works best) • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter, room temperature • 1/2 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese (preferably Parmigiano- Reggiano) • 8 ounces ham, thinly sliced • 1/2 pound Swiss cheese, sliced • 2 tablespoons Dijon mustard • 1/4 cup apricot preserves outsides and sprinkle with Parmesan. 2. Layer ham and cheese evenly on top of 4 slices of bread. 3. Spread apricot preserves and mustard across the other 4 slices. Press sandwiches together. 4. In a cast-iron skillet or large sauté pan over medium heat, grill sandwiches until golden, about 3 minutes per side. INSIDE-OUT GRILLED HAM AND CHEESE 1. Butter each slice of bread on the DIRECTIONS

5. Cut in half and serve.

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The Value of Reconnecting With Family Darrell Washington’s Success Story How to Stay Positive When You’re Down Inside-Out Grilled Ham and Cheese International Talk Like a Pirate Day 1 2 3 3 4 INSIDE THIS ISSUE

Celebrate Talk Like a Pirate Day YO HO HO, LANDLUBBERS!

Ahoy, matey! Wednesday, Sept. 19, is International Talk Like a Pirate Day. Brush up on your pirate vocabulary, grab your eye patch, get your puffy shirt dry cleaned, and bring a little seafaring fun to your office or classroom.

THE HISTORY

and the Super Bowl). In 2002, they pitched the idea to humor columnist Dave Barry, who promoted it in his syndicated column, and the concept quickly spread internationally. DID PIRATES REALLY TALK LIKE THAT? The “pirate-speak” popularized in movies and Disney attractions probably sounds nothing like real pirates did in centuries past. Today’s swashbuckling phrases delivered in a strong Southwest England accent can be traced back to Robert Newton’s 1950 portrayal of Long John Silver in the movie “Treasure Island.” Historically, English-speaking pirates probably sounded more like Johnny Depp’s Captain Jack Sparrow. Unfortunately, the pirates of the

Golden Age didn’t leave behind any YouTube videos to confirm this.

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SHENANIGANS The holiday began as an inside joke between pals

LEARN THE LINGO, LANDLUBBER Participating in Talk Like a Pirate Day is easy — you just need to know a few key phrases. “Ahoy, matey” means “Hello, friend!” “Blimey, that son of a biscuit-eater hornswaggled me out of me doubloons” means “Darn it, that jerk cheated me out of my money!” “Shiver me timbers, that old salt is three sheets to the wind” means “Wow, that old sailor has had too much beer.” And if a pirate (or your boss) says, “Swab the deck, ye bilge rat, or it’s Davy Jones’ locker for ye!” start mopping the floor immediately.

John Baur and Mark Summers in 1995. For reasons not even understood by themselves, they began speaking like pirates while playing racquetball, saying things to each other like, “That be a fine cannonade” (“Nice shot, dude”) and “Now watch as I fire a broadside straight into your yardarm” (“But watch this”). They decided Talk Like a Pirate Day needed to become official, so they chose Sept. 19, which was Summers’ wife’s birthday (and the only date he could remember besides Christmas

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