Pride Spring 2022

Pride Spring 2022

Pride Villager

Issue #8 Spring 2022

The Rainbow Optimist Club The Rainbow Optimist Club – Southwestern Ontario is dedicated to bettering the lives of LGBT2Q+ rural youth, their families and their communities in Elgin, Middlesex and Oxford Counties.

Rainbow Optimist AGM TheRainbowOptimist Clubheld their AGM, inperson, onDecember 5th at Somerville 630 in the Old East Village. Deshkan Zii Bi performed and were very well received. They not only preformed but they also shared experiences and educated the attendees. There was a small but mighty group in attendance! Lieutenant Governor Ed Finlan attended with his wife, Jane. Partnerships were forged. Watch out for great things! OPSEU Region 1 Funding OPSEU Region 1 donated $1500.00 to Drag Storytime. These funds will go towards future Drag Storytimes. TD Bank Funding TD Bank has given the Rainbow Optimist Club $10,000.00 for the Creating Safer Spaces for LGBT2Q+ Rural Youth Project. The project includes Drag Storytime, the Rainbow Speakers Panel and the Safer Spaces Workshop. With getting back to having in-person gatherings, we look forward to hosting in-person Drag Storytimes and Rainbow Speakers Panels in our rural libraries. These are already in the works. So, stay tuned! Creating Safer Spaces Workshop TheRainbowOptimist Clubhasbeenbusydelivering thisworkshop virtually. Since the fall edition of the Pride Villager, it has been delivered 8 times to different Alzheimer’s Societies across Ontario. In Elgin, Middlesex and Oxford Counties, it has been delivered six times to our library partners and the YWCA in St. Thomas. More details can be found on our website at: www.rainbowoptimistclub/saferspaces.

Resources Don’t forget about the Resources Section on our website. It includes an extensive list of community organizations, hotlines and crisis support, national organizations and additional resources and links. This list of resources can be found at:

www.RainbowOptimistclub.com/resources. Follow us on Facebook at: www.Facebook.com/ rainbowoptimistclub Follow us on Twitter: @rainbow0ptimist

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The goal of the Rainbow Optimist Club - Southwestern Ontario is to better the lives of LGBT2Q+ rural youth, their families and their communities in the Counties of Elgin, Middlesex and Oxford. Facebook: www.Facebook.com/RainbowOptimistClub Instagram: rainbowoptimistclub Twitter: @rainbow0ptimist Email: [email protected] Website: www.RainbowOptimistClub.com

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Message from London Mayor – Ed Holder London is many things to many people. Above all, and most importantly, we must always strive to be a diverse and inclusive community that honours, wel- comes, and accepts all people. Ours must be a community where people have the power to eliminate systemic oppressions. Londoners deeply

who are on the front lines of this vital effort. I commend you for the work, and for the daily sacrifices you make in pursuit of a better, and more just London. Thank you for ensuring that the focus remains on a future where everyone in our city is valued, celebrated, and loved for

who they are. Kind regards, Ed Holder, London Mayor

Pride Villager Issue #8 Spring 2022 www.villagerpublications.com Publisher: Barb Botten, Villager Publications P.O. Box 134, Lambeth Station Ontario N6P 1P9 Managing Editors: Barb Botten, Martin Withenshaw Graphic Artist: Cathy Wood Read past issues of Pride Villager at www.villagerpublications.com

Elgin County Pride 2022 Mark your calendars, Elgin County Pride 2022 is Monday, August 8th to Sunday, August 14th and planning is well underway. Exciting news! Elgin County Pride 2022 will be receiving $1500.00 from TD Bank Group. value diversity and the personal, cultural, social, and economic benefits it brings to the community. We have made great strides, especially in recent years, when it comes to acceptance, inclusion, and openness. These advancements are cause for celebration. They are also cause for reflection, specifically when it comes to how much further some mindsets must still adjust if we’re to achieve the kind of society we all desire. As far as we have come, there is still discrimination – and still violence – experienced too often by lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex people, as well as those with diverse sexual orientations, gender identities or expressions, and sex characteristics. Please know, that in the Mayor’s Office, you have allies in myself and my staff. That said, I recognize and appreciate that it is you The City of St. Thomas and Elgin County have been asked to proclaim Monday, August 8th to Sunday, August 14th as Pride week and raise the flag. Both virtual and live events are being planned. There has been a lot of discussion on what events could be done. There are been discussion on hosting: • Drag Queen Bingo • Rainbow Speakers Panel • 2 days at the Pinafore Park Bandshell: Saturday, August 13th – Family Day with Drag Storytime, a kids dance party, live entertainment (to be determined) Sunday, August 14th – Drive by parade, Deshkan Zii Bi, Drag show Elgin County Pride would like to host events leading up to and after the 2022 festivities. In April, around Easter time, a Drag Queen Bingo is in the works. A $10.00 donation will be requested to help cover the costs.. The money from TD is a great start. But without support of all our financial supporters none of this could come to fruition. So additional sponsorship is being sought. The sponsorship package is available at: www.rainbowoptimistclub.com/elgin-county-pride. Stay tuned!!

Oxford County Pride by Tami Murray, President

The Oxford County Pride committee is happy to announce we will be hosting our 1990s themed Pride Family Day event June 18th 2022. It’s an outdoor celebration of diversity and inclusion of the S2 lgbtqai+ community in Oxford County! We are thrilled to be hosting several musical guests, amazing community partners and business sponsors, children’s activities and of course a watering station for our furry family friends. The Oxford County Pride team worked diligently despite the challenges of Covid-19 to engage the 2s lgbtqai+ community virtually, and are very excited to be back to an in-person platform! Please join us June 18th 2022 at Museum Square Woodstock, Ontario and celebrate like it’s 1999! There will be prizes for best costumes and much much more! We are also excited to announce an additional crosswalk that will be added to Ingersoll, Ontario, sponsored by 100 women in Oxford County who care.

For more information on our live and streaming events or if you are interested in becoming a sponsor or Community partner please check out our website at www.oxfordpride.ca or follow us Instagram or Twitter.

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From the Journal of Rev. Laurie Nevin: This is what I know to be true about Love today... Love is indescribable because it goes infinitely beyond intellectual understanding. The body can feel it and “think” it knows it, but the Love I write about goes even beyond all that. As a result of experiencing what love is NOT, the intimate awareness of what Love IS can arise. So here are some musings on Love which are percolating within. Love doesn’t judge right from wrong or good from bad. It doesn’t play games with hearts by dismissing or abandoning on purpose. Love is kind and sees All equally. In fact, It sees Itself in All. No need for stories or definitions to create hurtful dramas. No more specialness or self-centeredness. Love is innocent, pure and free of mental movies. It is the essence and existence of All that is. It is the true Identity of every being and rides on every breath. Love allows All like a blue sky allowing any weather pattern to pass through. It doesn’t gain or lose anything because it is a limitless and changeless Source.

The Skill of Acceptance and Understanding

In the Pride Understanding video “Acceptance and Under- standing”,Gulliver’s teacher explains the importanceof accepting someone for who they are, despite their differences. She points out that accepting someone that doesn’t have the same interest or points of view as us is a very important skill to have, and encourages questions to get to a point of understanding. When Gulliver claims that his new friend is weird, the teacher points out that they aren’t weird, just different.

Accepting someone who is different than us, who has a unique point of view or lives a life less common than the norm is a skill we should all be practicing right now. It’s easy in a time of fear to gravitate to those with similar view- points while vilifying those that see the world differently than we do, but creating two camps of us and them is not what we need right now.

Gulliver’s teacher is right. Acceptance is a skill. A skill we need to practice. Taking the time to listen to someone who sees things differently from us, learning why they feel the way they do and taking the time to understand not only welcomes potential new friendships, but also allows us to grow. Asking questions, looking for similarities that can unite us despite our different values and beliefs creates the foundation for a stronger community and helps expand our own network of support. If someone is different, has a unique lifestyle or belief that isn’t hurting anyone else, shouldn’t we show them acceptance? As Gulliver’s teacher says, it takes a lot of courage to be your true self, and to show your true self to the rest of the world. Having a friend with that type of courage (especially when they show you the same acceptance) is a really good friend to have. Look for the sameness and accept the differences. Maybe that’s what we should be working on right now. To watch the video on acceptance and understanding, go to www.prideunderstanding.ca. These videos have been designed to be acceptable for all ages, to help families start a conversation.

Love is always freely flowing as a verb and not as a noun. It cannot be owned, possessed, or controlled. Where there is Love; there is Life. You are welcome to a “free consultation to chat with “RevNev” about love and any questions you may wish any support with.

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Coming Out and Living Out! Pflag International is a name synonymous with the words; support, welcome, and love. Started in 1972 by Jeanne Manford, Pflag was born after Jeanne’s son was beaten and hospitalized in New York City. Jeanne soon realized that that was little to no support for parents and grandparents of children who identified under the rainbow umbrella. Jeanne set to work as the first Pflag Mama, making a safe space for families to land after a child’s coming out, or even after they had been living out for several years. Ahead of her times, she understood first hand the need for support, friendship, and love for families at a time when being gay was still seen as a choice. Fast forward to 2022, and Pflag is just as relevant, and important as it was in the 70’s. Pflag is now a worldwide organization, operating in over 20 countries, the latest in 2008, in China. Pflag Canada was started in the 1980’s by Pauline Martin and her son Russell. Canada now has over 70 Chapters, serving thousands of families and queer folx. Pflag London has been a long-standing support group in the Forest City. Evolving from a small room at RHAC facilitated by Joanne King, to large group meetings run by Lori Ward, to our current online format. Pflag London supports everyone under the umbrella, we like to stay everyone is welcome here, During the early 2000’s Pflag london made a shift, to not just support families, but to support queer folx as well, soon after we started to welcome the trans* community, and then, anyone who loved someone under the rainbow umbrella or anyone who identifies under it. Pflag London now includes five different support groups, offering a listening ear and support for anyone on this journey. During the pandemic, with so many folx dealing with isolation it became more apparent than ever the need to pivot our services and offer online support. Since that pivot, we have been able to continue our work, minus the hugs. To help provide as much support to our community as possible Pflag offers different support groups: • Mama’s, Papa’s and Caregivers – The Pflag Original. This group offers support for the parents and caregivers for people who are coming out and living out. Occasionally attended by a grandparent or sibling/nibling, this group is always well attended, and much loved.

• The Queerdo/Rainbow Room – This group is for anyone under the umbrella. Welcoming 2SLGBTQIA+ from London and the surrounding area, this group is full of support, often some laughter, and assured a safe space to land. • Pflag Youth, and Pflag Youth 2.0 – Currently these groups are on pause. The pandemic has overloaded our youth with online classes, and unfortunately resulting in poor online pflag attendance. We can’t wait to bring our youth back in person soon!

Claire Salisbury MSc (Clinical Psychology), RP, CCC Registered Psychotherapist Pronouns: She/Her Individual psychotherapy and support for adults, teens, and children, focusing on gender identity and gender dysphoria. Virtual and phone sessions available.

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When it comes to equity and inclusion, we all play a role by Matt Sereda (He/Him); TVDSB Equity Learning Coordinator Throughout the year there are several opportunities to affirm people’s interlocking identities and to amplify conversations related to equity, inclusion and social justice: Islamic History Month, Women’s History Month, Transgender Day of Remembrance, Black History Month, National Indigenous History Month and so many more. These days and months provide an important opportunity to recognize the unique experiences and challenges many people continue to face on a daily basis. They also provide an opportunity to highlight the actions we can all take to ensure that everyone feels celebrated for being who they are. In TVDSB, this commitment to equity and inclusion is at the centre of all that we do. All students, staff and community members have a right to be affirmed and celebrated for the unique identities that make them who they are. This commitment to equity is evident in several ways throughout TVDSB, including TVDSB’s Draft Equity Action Plan, our focus on anti-racist professional learning and our commitment to Culturally Relevant and Responsive Pedagogy. However, the initiatives that bring me the most joy are the ones that centre students’ experiences and amplify students’ voices, such as Queer Straight Alliances (also known as GSA’s), Black Student Associations, Muslim Student Associations and the newly formed Student Equity and Inclusion Advisory Committee. These groups not only provide students with an

opportunity to feel affirmed and celebrated for who they are, but they also provide important social justice and advocacy opportunities, whereby students are empowered to lead initiatives that directly impact the removal of disproportionalities and support the well-being of students that have historically been disadvantaged by the education system, such as Black, Indigenous, religious minority and 2SLGBTQIA+ students. A wonderful example of this type of student advocacy is TVDSB’s MyName initiative, which works to affirm student’s chosen names in online platforms such as Google Meet and Google Classroom. TheMyName initiative was led by Queer Straight Alliance students and staff from Oakridge Secondary School and is a clear example of the power of amplifying student voice, providing social justice opportunities and affirming student identity. Equity is at the centre of all that we do in TVDSB, but that doesn’t mean that we still don’t have work to do. We are committed to constantly improving and to ensuring that all students feel safe, valued and celebrated for the uniqueness of who they are. We all have a commitment to equity. Our students are depending on us.

Supporting London’s LGBTQ2+ Community

Teresa Armstrong MPP London—Fanshawe 519-668-1104 [email protected]

Terence Kernaghan MPP London North Centre 519-432-7339 [email protected]

Peggy Sattler MPP London West 519-657-3120 [email protected]

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London’s diverse drag scene by Galaxy Rose

There are many things I enjoy about being a performer here in London, but first and foremost is how diverse our drag scene is. Our drag community consists of a full spectrum of gender identities, cultures and creative expressions, and actively celebrates this diversity in various ways, showcasing the talent of London in a way that identifies this city as being one that thrives on its wealth of diversity. Being a non-binary drag artist provides me with a broad perspective on London’s scene; and allows me a window into how someone like me fits within it. As such, I found avenues in which I could explore my own gender identity and expression in a way that was empowering to me within the context of an accepting environment. Thus, impressing on me how important access to safe spaces is for queer people, especially those who are on their own gender journey. For me, drag is a journey of authenticity that brings to life the things we love and appreciate the most about ourselves. Being a non-binary POC artist provides me with a wealth of inspiration, and I use my drag to celebrate my culture, my skin, my gender identity and my gender fluidity. Diversity and inclusion are at the forefront in London, enabling people to actively participate and perform in an environment which celebrates who they are, because we understand the necessity for having a safe space to not only perform in, but to embrace oneself in an authentic way. This comes in the form of inclusive events which provide a space where people can be accepted in a community which fosters their personal growth. From learning panels to entertainment, London shows an appreciation for all of its members on the LGBTQQ2A+ spectrum, and even our allies actively contribute by supporting queer spaces, virtual or otherwise. I have a deep love for my community and its allies, and it is essential that we protect these safe spaces so that others can shine in their own light. Everyone deserves to be celebrated for who they are, fundamentally, and in each step, they take on the way to becoming that person. I am an example of what happens when the community supports a queer artist, an example of how a little love and support, can lend to an authentic expression of creativity, and the shape self-love takes when it is watered at its roots. I am a proud non-binary, demisexual person of colour, and I have been afforded the gift to celebrate who I am in a community which puts love first. I can’t emphasize how important this

has been to my personal journey, and everyone deserves the same feeling. To know that fundamentally, you are valued, you are valid and you can do anything with the full support of your community as you are, whole and authentic and an important piece in the mosaic of our city. To know, fundamentally you are loved unconditionally for who you are. “For me, drag is a journey of authenticity that brings to life the things we love and appreciate the most about ourselves.” Galaxy Rose

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Pride Men’s Chorus London: Pursuing Inclusivity Through Music By Rick Young Pride Men’s Chorus London formed in 2016 and then made an unexpected debut at the Vigil for The Orlando Massacre in June after only a few weeks of rehearsal. “Pride Men’s Chorus London is part of a global movement of LGBTQ2 Choirs in the world that began in 1978 when San Francisco’s Gay Men’s Chorus made an unexpected debut after the assassinations of Harvey Milk and George Moscone,” says Clark Bryan, the organization’s co-founder, and artistic director. As stated on its website, the Chorus “envisions a world where the human voice is lifted up through song in celebration of diversity; where music is valued as a powerful gift and seen as a universal tool to achieve and sustain inclusivity; and where united voices are an instrument of change. In the global arena of eroding human rights and particularly the rights of the LGBTQ2 community, we sing to enlighten and help those with closed minds and hearts to open up and celebrate diversity and love.” Membership in the Chorus is open to all men regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. “Our members come from all kinds of cultural backgrounds and walks of life,” says Clark. He adds that the Chorus includes a number of people who are transitioning.

numerous Sold Out concerts, participated in Pride London festivities, and in 2018, it was the recipient of the Forest City London Music Award Best Classical Vocal (Choir/Group). In past summers, the Pride Celebration Chorus, an all-gender choir, comprised of singers singing in four parts – Soprano, Alto, Tenor and Bass – has performed at Pride London Festivals. Unfortunately, due to the COVID-19 pandemic, it's been a couple of challenging years for the voluntary community organization, says Clark. After pivoting between in-person and virtual rehearsals, the Chorus resumed in-person rehearsals in February. “We’ve approached the situation cautiously with a steady eye on the pandemic caseload,” says Clark. “We provided a hybrid model for those members who aren’t comfortable within-person rehearsals so they can continue to engage online.” The Chorus is currently preparing for its first post-pandemic concert entitled Brave: A Celebration of LGBTQ2+ History. A multimedia presentation that will be offered both to in-person audiences and through live streaming, Brave chronicles the global and local history of the LGBTQ2 communities in a celebration of diversity and love, sharing fierce anthems and

While there are no auditions to become a member, people must complete a Membership Agreement Form, pay a small fee, and undergo a Voice Determination for placement in the choir. By any measurement, Pride Men’s Chorus London has been a resounding success story. Comprised of between forty to fifty members at any given time, the Chorus has performed

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loud and proud protest songs, and personal reflections about the brave souls who came before, and whose activism was hard fought. “Bring lots of tissue for this emotional, thought-provoking celebration of LGBTQ2 history, self-love, and affirmation,” says Clark. To be sure, all Londoners should be proud of Pride Men’s Chorus London and its efforts to promote inclusivity through music.

To learn more about the Chorus and its activities, visit https://aeolianhall. ca/pmcl/ and follow it on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

“It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.” Maya Angelo “Our ability to reach unity in diversity will be the beauty and the test of our civilization.” Mahatma Gandhi

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London’s Only Gender Neutral Barbershop by Ryan Ford While the resurgence of the “Traditional Barbershop” was perfect and timely, it also brought forth a very male dominated industry and a “boys club” mentality. I was very lucky to find an apprenticeship at Glassbox Barbershop in Toronto, where they fostered an environment of inclusivity. One of a kind in the city, we flourished, offering barbering services to men and women who had the desire for a “good fade”. J.S. Ryan & Co., is a gender neutral space, both in design and ambiance. Salons are too “feminine”, while barbershops are too “masculine”. We are not a barbershop, nor a salon. We are “the in between”. It’s not just a haircut, it’s an experience. Providing a welcoming space for everyone, we offer a full range of barbering services (including straight shaves), along with premium hair colour services that will rival any salon in the city. Unbeknownst to most, our industry is incredibly underpaid. Either commissionor chair rental, it’s never fair. As someoneon the receiving end of poor commission, but also with a background in business and finance, I have decided to create a pay structure that is unheard of in this industry. We offer the highest pay rates in the industry, bar none. As of January 2022, my staff will have Group Benefits. This does not exist for hairstylists or barbers, even in a large corporate environment. The only way to make change, is to just do it. J.S. Ryan & Co. is not just about hair. We are about People and our Community. J.S. Ryan Co. Barbershop & Salon is located at 250 Ridout St. South (at Chester). Call 519-204-2055 or book online jsryanco.com

Free Transportation to Mental Health Support for Youth To help individuals aged 16-25 living in rural Middlesex County access mental health and addiction support, the Road to Mental Health (RMH) program was established and offers free taxi services to and from the Mental Health and Addictions Crisis Centre in London for youth in crisis who reside in rural northwest Middlesex (focused on Lucan, Parkhill, Strathroy, Exeter and neighbouring communities). If you are a youth living northwest Middlesex and require transportation to your mental health related appointments, please contact your mental health organization to see if they provide free rides with RMH. As an essential health care service, RMH is always open and operational for those in need. RMH is made possible through support from St. Joseph’s Healthcare Foundation (London, Ontario) and local donors, and the partnership between MINDS of London-Middlesex, CMHA Elgin- Middlesex, Star Taxi, and the Lucan and Parkhill Public Libraries. How to Access 1. Individuals in need connect with Reach Out via phone, text or webchat at 519-433-2023 or www.reachout247.ca.* 2. The Reach Out worker will assess the individual’s situation and if needed, they will connect them with a ride to the Crisis Centre via Star Taxi. 3. Upon their arrival, the individual will receive adequate care and support, which could include assessment, supportive counselling and/or referrals to other services. *If you are under the age of 16, please contact Tandem for 24/7 support where a trained professional can connect you with a ride to mental health and/or addiction support through RMH.

Free transportation to and from mental health support in London for youth ages 16-25 who live in Northwest Middlesex county (includes Lucan, Parkhill, Strathroy, Exeter and surrounding areas). Free transportation to and from mental health support in London for youth ages 16-25 who live in Northwest Middlesex county (includes Lucan, Parkhill, Strathroy, Exeter and surrounding areas). Free transportation to and from mental health support in London for youth ages 16-25 who live in Northwest Middlesex county (includes Lucan, Parkhill, Strathroy, Exeter and surrounding areas).

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Recommended Reading

Elgin County Library Family of Origin, Family of Choice: Stories of Queer Christians by Katie Hays & Susan A. Chiasson Some people assume that being LGBTQ+ and Christian are incompatible, but in fact there are many who seek to reconcile those identities. Family of Origin, Family of Choice is the product of Galileo Church pastor Hays and social scientist Chasson. The book 's strength lies in the range of its storytellers, including people who come out to parents and siblings and are welcomed, and others who navigate being rejected by their family of origin and finding chosen family along the way. Young Adult Heartstopper: Vol. 4 by Alice Oseman Heartstopper is about love, friendship, loyalty and mental illness. It encompasses all the small stories of Nick and Charlie's lives that together make up something larger, which speaks to all of us. Delicate illustrations and on-point dialogue capture the excitement and uncertainty of first love, while the slice-of-life style invites readers into Charlie and Nick's growing understanding of their identities, mental health, friends, and family. Vol. 4 dives into three little (big) words and as a new school year begins, Charlie and Nick are about to learn a lot about what love means.

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Young Adult Pumpkin by Julie Murphy

Julie Murphy, author of the bestseller Dumplin’, brings us back to Clover City, Texas for one last hurrah in Pumpkin. It’s the story of WaylonBrewer: a fat, openly gay boywho is ready to livehis truth. He’s a senior in high school, and he’s ready to leave this town behind and ride away with his twin sister. But when his plans go awry, a late-night decision inspires him to audition for his favorite drag TV program. And when Waylon’s audition tape ends up in the wrong hands, it results in a round of mockery punctuated by a joke nomination for PromQueen. Only, what the bullies could never see coming is that Waylon is going to run – and he’s going to run his way. Even if it irks the frontrunner for Prom King – the infuriatingly handsome Tucker Watson. With the help of some fellow queens, Waylon will need to learn that the best plan for tomorrow is living for today. Adult Fiction Plain Bad Heroines by Emily M Danforth Plain Bad Heroines will give you full body chills, in a good way! Magnetic star Harper, author Merritt, and quiet, bold Aubrey come together to make a film about the real-life queer ghostly history of Brookhants School for Girls, a boarding school that was once haunted by a curse and a string of mysterious deaths. Danforth winds their story into the story of Brookhants itself, leading readers through a dread-filled, suspenseful tale with queer women always at its core.

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The Strathroy Pride Committee is already meeting and planning some exciting in-person events for this summer! Time to dust off your rainbow gear, iron out your pride flags, and get out there for some much-needed social time with our colourful community. Events this year will include a Rainbow Pottery paint night, a Pride Art Gala, Drag Queen Bingo, Queer Movie Night, Drag Performances, and much more! Be sure to stock up on fabulous pride gear at our Strathroy Pride booth at the Strathroy Downtown Market from June 11 to July 16th.

Meet Victor Feunekes My name is Victor and there are so many different ways I identify myself. When I started transitioning a large part of my identity was wrapped up in my gender and my gender expression. Other parts of my identity that matter to me include being a musician, therapist, partner, sibling, son, and friend. My pronouns are they and he, and I started my transition journey in 2013 when I was in school to become a social worker. This was a challenging point in my life because I became quite scared of leaving home, and so I began to withdraw. After finding the support that I needed, I now live a life I never thought possible. This past two years has been difficult for a lot of Trans and Queer people because it’s been harder to find and immerse ourselves in community, and find the supports we need. I’ve desperately missed Pride celebrations because Pride is when I get to see the people who really understand who I am as a person, and I usually have the opportunity to share my music on stage for a few different events. I miss the nerves before getting up on a stage, and the vibration of an audience while my voice and guitar fill the room. Most importantly, I miss my people. I was fortunate that I had the option to take some time over the pandemic to redirect my energy into completing my master’s degree with the goal of becoming a therapist. When I was looking for a placement, an incredible opportunity came across my Facebook feed: a new practice in London focused on the 2SLGBTQ+ community happened to be looking for a student at the same time I was looking for a mentor and so, I reached out and joined them. I’m still baffled by the serendipity of that one single moment. Now that I’ve finished my degree, I’m opening up my availability to see people for psychotherapy. My strengths of my practice include working through questions around gender, sexuality, queerness and spirituality/religion, and the ever-so complex feelings associated with marginalized identities. I also am committed to involving the impacts of colonization in my work, and continue to make this learning and unlearning a priority. I truly believe that we’re all good humans, and nothing is wrong with any of us. We are living in really difficult times and our brains find ways to ease the pain we’re experiencing. Throughout my life, I carried a lot of shame and guilt for who I was, but through my own personal journey, I learned there was nothing wrong with me. Now, I feel incredibly grateful and honoured to share the path I’ve been on, and to be able to take part in the healing journey of other people in our community.

On July 16th join us for the town hall flag raising followed by an afternoon at the park with musical performances, Drag Storytime, BBQ, vendors, and tons of family fun activities. Mark July 16 in your calendars now and connect with us on Facebook, Instagram or our website (StrathroyPride.org) for all the delicious details as they emerge. It’s time to celebrate Pride again!

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Reimagining the next chapter, Rodney takes his lead from Leads Employment Agency Rodney began reimaging his future in July 2020 just as the first wave of COVID-19 was ebbing. Being 52-years old, unemployed, living with HIV, and on social assistance, not to mention facing the uncertainty of a global pandemic, he knew it was time to make changes. According to Rodney, it was hard to find work in his two university degree specialties: Sociology and Music Therapy. So, he turned to Leads Employment Services for guidance. Kathryn, a Leads Employment Specialist, recognized that Rodney needed fulfilling work and helped match his skills with job opportunities. They had regular phone meetings and worked on his resume and interview skills – all done virtually because of the pandemic. Kathryn sent openings as they came, and he applied at a local library and a local big box retail store. One day, Rodney told Kathryn about shopping at Reimagine Co – a unique package-free grocery store that sells local, organic, plant-based food that is fresh and affordable. “I loved it. It is the store of the future!” says Rodney. Rodney was motivated to work at Reimagine Co because store owners, Kara Rijnen and Heenal Rajani, shared his values about healthy eating and sustainability. Because their goals were close to his heart, Rodney wanted to help them succeed. Through a connection with another colleague, Kathryn arranged an interview and four days later he started a three- month contract.

One of the training programs that Rodney attended through Leads is theWorkplace Success Program. Through this program, the Federal Government pays employee wages for three-month terms to help new businesses get started. Besides helping the start-up business, the employees build work experience, skills, and confidence. The program also provides support for clothing, footwear and, for his contract at Reimagine Co, a specific mat to support the lengthy times he was standing on the job. Even though theReimagineCo jobwas temporary, the experience put him back in the workforce and helped build his confidence. Asked what his favorite part of the Reimagine Co experience was, Rodney said that the customers were the nicest people he had ever met. He also highlighted how accommodating the owners were to work around his involvement with a local arts organization. With the heart-warming Reimagine Co experience behind him, Rodney is encouraged and hopeful for the future. “It was extremely discouraging not having an interview for so long,” he explains. Kathryn became his “employment cheerleader.” For Rodney, working with Leads was such a great confidence- building experience, especially during COVID when it would have been easy to give up. Rodney continues working with Leads to secure further employment. He is training for his first-aid certificate, and because Leads encourages volunteering to help open doors, he is now reimagining how he can put his university degrees, and himself, to work volunteering to do music therapy and poetry at a local library.

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Scallop Appetizer with Martin Witenshaw

Chris Weitzel and I spent time talking on the phone about seafood on Family Day. Chris is the proprietor of ChrisProduce & Seafood. Chris sells seasonal fresh produce which he has been selling for 13 years and seafood which he has been selling for 7 years.

When asked why he got into fresh fish and seafood he said that he loved being an entrepreneur wanted to do it fulltime, he loves fish and seafood (will try anything once) and because fresh vegetables were seasonal, he started selling fresh fish and seafood. He loves what he does. Chris shared a recipe that he was preparing for a special Family Day dinner. Ingredients 6 -10 (under 10 per pound) sea scallops 2 tbsp sunflower oil 2 pads butter Sea salt Fresh-cracked pepper Directions • Pat the scallops dry, then score crossways 3 times • Season your presentation side with sea salt & fresh cracked pepper (first side to hit the pan) • Heat oil to a medium high in a pan (non-stick will do, Chris prefers cast iron)

• Set scallop in pan and leave them! Let them cook by not moving them around in the pan for 3 minutes. • Check it for beautiful brown caramelization, once achieved, flip over your already seasoned scallop for a minute or so LESS than the other side. • Remove and let rest for a minute or two and serve on a nice bed of rice or on their own with just a spoonful of the naturally browned-butter from the pan. • Goes well with a few micro greens. Here are some tips when buying scallops: • Know your fish monger. • You want to be able to smell the salty ocean. • Ask if the scallops are treated or untreated. Many people have an allergy to the chemical used on treated scallop and have an allergic reaction. • There are many different types of scallops. The two main types are the smaller bay scallops used in things like soups, then there are the large sea scallops which were used in the recipe. Serves 2 people

Chris Produce is located at 300 Seagrave Rd. Unit 4, Woodstock.

Chris Weitzel (owner, operator) 4-1300 Seagrave Drive Woodstock, ON N4T 1R2 C:(226)220-1798 E: [email protected] W: www.localchrisproduce.ca

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Find It In London The collective effort of the London Community Recovery Network is focused on creating a strong, resilient and inclusive post-pandemic London, and has developed a framework that sets out a common vision, focus areas and shared measures for community recovery in London. As part of the London Community Recovery Network, Tourism London, in collaboration with Argyle BIA, Downtown London, Hamilton Road BIA, Hyde Park BIA, Old East Village BIA and others, has launched a citywide ‘Find it in London’ pro- motional campaign. This coordinated, collaborative, promotional partnership will create a sense of community and drive recovery in the city while stimulating local tourism and economic growth. ‘Find it in London’ is telling stories of the community, creating relationships and building connections that will encourage people to want to shop local, support local and experience all that London has to offer. Why should you shop local? Shopping local … • Stimulates the local economy as dollars spent locally continue to circulate in our community • Supports and creates jobs within our community • Supports our neighbours who own businesses in our community • Supports local charities through give back programs • Supports independent business owners who tend to have more product knowledge, better service and unique expertise to help with your shop local experience

You are invited to be part of Find It In London! There is no cost to your business to be involved … and there are other opportunities as well! Your business will be listed in the online business directory on the campaign’s website www.finditinlondon.ca. You also will be eligible to be included in future activations that will bring customers to you including a special holiday gift guide and fun marketing initiatives! How to get your business involved: • Visit: www.finditinlondon.ca/ submissions/ • Complete the form and include photos, your logo and a description of the unique products or services that your business provides.

• Share this information with other local business owners so that others can be involved! And don’t forget to use the hashtag #finditinlondon whenever you’re using social media for your business!

want your business featured on our site? visit: finditinlondon.ca

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LIVE LOCAL • Love Local • SHOP LOCAL