Soto Law Group - November 2021

Soto Law Group - November 2021

November 2021 Soto’s Chronicles

DeDe Soto

Protecting your most valuable asset — your family

3 Ways to Survive Your Best Decisions Sully Found Confidence While Facing Doubt

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When you make the right decisions in life, a band doesn’t appear on the scene to sing your praises. Often, your best decisions are private and very difficult to make. But how do you ultimately know whether or not you did the right thing? The movie “Sully,” directed by Clint Eastwood, confronts this question in a fascinating way. It’s based on the true story of Captain Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger and his decision to land his commercial plane in the Hudson River because he realized it wouldn’t make it to LaGuardia due to a rare engine failure. Although the survival rate for water landings is remarkably low, every single person lived. That’s 155 people, including two infants. Despite being a hero, the pilot faced enormous legal challenges afterward. To put it simply, insurance and the airline company didn’t want to pay for the damages. Captain Sully and his copilot were forced to constantly defend the best decision he could have made. Based on this true story and its movie adaptation, here’s how you, too, can cope with doubt about the most important decisions in your life. No. 1: In any crisis, always focus on the first step. When you’re in the pilot’s cockpit and alarm bells are going off, it’s easy to panic or, worse, freeze in terror. How do you stop yourself from doing that? Although it’s certainly easier said than done, you should put all of your energy into the initial action of dealing with the crisis.

Happy Thanksgiving! Happy November! I hope it will be a wonderful holiday season this year. Thanksgiving is my favorite time of the year, and I always look forward to spending time with my family and friends in Palm Desert. Plus, November is a great time to share my gratitude. I am thankful for all of the wonderful people who have crossed my path and touched my life in one way or another this year. As always, I am grateful for my health and the ability to serve all of you. To each of you, I simply say thank you for your trust in the Soto Law Group, it is greatly appreciated especially since this past year brought various challenges. Enjoy the holiday season — and if you need to have you and your family protected, please feel free to contact us.

This step includes emotional crises, too, when you’re deep in self-doubt. What’s the first step to knowing you made the right decisions? It’s

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double-checking your work and talking to others who have been in similar positions. It can also mean being patient for results to come in. Focus on small steps, and after that, try this next step. No. 2: Focus on what’s in your control — if it isn’t, relinquish your concern. If you’ve had a new job change you’re worried about, create a pros and cons list and see what you think. No matter what the results are, you can always consider your next steps toward a future you’ll be happier with. However, if you’ve landed a plane and saved 155 lives but face intense legal threats that could jeopardize your well-being and that of your family, you may feel like your emotional state is out of your control. That’s totally normal — it may even be healthy to allow yourself to feel disappointment, anger, and worry. Embracing your emotions may allow you to accept, overcome, and see past them faster. No. 3: Don’t doubt yourself alone — find a listening ear. As a hero, Sully felt very isolated in his unique situation of self- doubt; however, he was lucky to rely on his copilot, wife, and lawyers who knew his situation intimately. They considered it carefully themselves and assured him he was right.

It’s easy to isolate yourself when you feel most vulnerable and afraid of being wrong. However, it might be worth opening up to a friend, or even a therapist, to talk about your doubts and why they may cause you anxiety or decision paralysis. Working through these phases in your life never has to be done alone — we all need help sometimes. While I’m not Captain Sully, these tips have helped me numerous times, and in some cases, I wish I had taken my own advice sooner! Thanks for reading, friends. I hope you’ll have a wonderful start to the holiday season.

Football and Thanksgiving: A Match Made in Marketing Heaven

Last year, 30.3 million people tuned in to watch the NFL’s Thanksgiving showdown between the Washington Football Team and the Dallas Cowboys. For those Americans (and probably for you if you’re reading this article), football is as essential to Thanksgiving as turkey and stuffing — but why? As it turns out, there are two answers to that question. The first is that games have been played on the holiday for almost as long as it has officially existed. Thanksgiving became a holiday in 1863, and just six years later, the third American football game in history was played on it.

more fans, his team would make a point to always play on Thanksgiving when most people were off work. To sweeten the pot, he committed his radio station (an affiliate of the NBC Blue Network) to broadcasting the Thanksgiving game live on 94 different stations across America. This idea was a hit from day one! According to Sporting News, the long-unloved Lions “not only sold out the stadium, they also had to turn people away at the gates.” In 1966, the Dallas Cowboys signed on to play every Thanksgiving, too, for similar publicity reasons.

According to SB Nation, the Young America Cricket Club and the Germantown Cricket Club faced off in that inaugural Thanksgiving game in Philadelphia, and football has been played on Thanksgiving pretty much ever since! When the NFL was founded in 1920, the Thanksgiving game was official from the get-go.

Since those early days, football-themed traditions have flourished in American families. Apart from

watching games on TV, one of the most popular is organizing a pre-turkey game of family touch football a la the sitcom “Friends.” (Its famed episode “The One With the Football” aired Nov. 21, 1996.) If you’ve never organized a game, this could be your year! To get started, Google “Scott’s Family-Friendly Touch Football” and click the first link.

The second reason we watch football on Thanksgiving is more about money than tradition. In 1934, a Detroit Lions coach, George A. Richards, decided that in order to attract

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sunscreen. Dehydration can cause dull skin and sunken eyes, so be sure to drink lots of water. And since time in the sun can result in premature aging and discolored skin (not to mention skin cancer), always wear an SPF 30 or higher sunscreen to protect the delicate skin under your eyes. Try a cold compress. Placing something cold (but not frozen) under your eyes can cause the blood vessels to constrict, providing a temporary improvement in appearance. You can buy a cold compress, but at-home methods often involve a cold teaspoon, cucumber slice, or a wet washcloth. Since tea contains antioxidants that will stimulate your blood circulation, a cool tea bag is another popular option. Heat up two tea bags in warm water for five minutes, then chill them in the refrigerator for 15–20 minutes. After that, just rest them gently on your eyes. Use retinol cream in your routine. Retinol helps to improve collagen deficiencies and plump up the skin, and some people have dramatic results with retinol cream. Over-the-counter options are available, but higher strengths require a prescription. Retinol makes your skin more sensitive to the sun, so only apply your retinol cream at night. You don’t want to swap out dark circles with sunburn! If these tips don’t reduce the appearance of your under-eye circles, it may be time to see a dermatologist. But most dark circles can be resolved at home with just a little TLC. Say Goodbye to Dark Under-Eye Circles With 3 Easy Tips

If you’re older than 30, you’re probably no stranger to dark under-eye circles. They can make you look worn down and older, and makeup can temporarily conceal but doesn’t solve the problem. Many people think dark under-eye circles are a sign of tiredness, but fatigue is only one of several causes. Other lifestyle factors like sun exposure, alcohol consumption, and smoking can play a role, as can some skin conditions. But the No. 1 factor that causes dark under-eye circles is one we can’t control: aging. You can’t help getting older, but you can mitigate some of the effects. Your dark circles will probably never go away entirely, but you can use these tips to minimize their appearance. Use prevention methods. To avoid getting or worsening dark circles, your best defenses are staying well hydrated and always wearing Take a Break!

Inspired by TheKitchn.com • 1 whole turkey, thawed • 2 cups chicken or vegetable broth • Salt and pepper to taste Ingredients Roasted Turkey

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1. Preheat the oven to 450 F. 2. Remove packaging and giblets from inside of the turkey. 3. Place the turkey in a broiling pan breast-side up and rub it with salt and pepper. Pour the broth around the turkey. 4. Place the pan in the oven and turn the temperature down to 350 F. Turkey should cook for 12–15 minutes per pound, typically 3–4 hours. 5. Remove the turkey from the oven every 45 minutes and baste it with the broth. 6. Once finished, let the turkey rest for 15–20 minutes before carving and serving.

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE From the Desk of DeDe PAGE 1 3 Ways to Survive Your Best Decisions PAGE 1 Football and Thanksgiving: A Match Made in Marketing Heaven PAGE 2 Say Goodbye to Dark Under-Eye Circles PAGE 3 Take a Break PAGE 3 Roasted Turkey PAGE 3 The Big Debate Surrounding Alexander the Great’s Death PAGE 4

Was Alexander the Great Buried … Alive?! HISTORIANS DEBATE THE FATE OF ONE OF THE WORLD’S GREAT CONQUERORS

For centuries, the ancient Greeks ruled most of Europe and the world, and one man is credited with unifying this historically powerful mass of people under one rule for 13 years: Alexander the Great. Alexander is most known for his hard-fought capture of land all across the globe after succeeding his father on the throne at just 20 years old. But Alexander’s rise came crashing down when he died just 12 years later. Today, the facts of his death are starting to piece together a curious puzzle for historians, because some now believe Alexander was buried alive. Surprisingly (and terrifyingly), this wasn’t uncommon. For centuries, doctors struggled to definitively prove someone was dead because many of the classic signs of death are similar to those of someone in a comatose state. This became such a common problem into the 20th century that people were buried in specialty coffins or with a bell tied around their hand to alert grave watchers. (As bodies decomposed, you can imagine how this created eerie occurrences.) Experts believe Alexander the Great may be one of history’s first recorded instances of such a death. After 12 days of abdominal

pain that led to a fever and paralysis, ancient Greek doctors couldn’t detect a breath from their great ruler, and he was declared dead. As the massive empire mourned, Alexander’s body was prepared for the afterlife, but he didn’t show signs of decomposition for six days. This only fed the belief that Alexander — like other rulers of his time — was part god.

Dr. Katherine Hall of the University of Otago, New Zealand, believes this suggests that Alexander wasn’t yet dead. In fact, he may have been suffering from a rare bacterial infection that attacks the nervous system and leads to paralysis, which could result in the lack of breath. As such, Dr. Hall believes he was entombed alive, making him one of the first to suffer a “false death.” However, other historians are quick to say Dr. Hall’s theory is too speculative to be taken as fact. Among the common counter arguments, Dr. Hall’s reliance on >Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4

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