Wade Law Group June 2018

Wade Law Group June 2018

JUNE 2018

WADE LAW GROUP

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THE BEST PART OF BEING A DAD

My former spouse and I divorced when my son was 5 and my daughter was 10. It was a hard period to go through, but one good thing that came out of it was the chance to step up my game as a dad. I had 50-50 custody, and I learned to carve out my own connection with my kids. It gave me more time to nurture that relationship. I could no longer defer to my spouse to handle all the discipline or help the kids with their homework assignments, so my options were to step up or lose the opportunity to have a great relationship with them. It wasn’t even something to think about, really. My kids and my work are the two most important things in my life, and I’ve always found time for them. For me, one of the most challenging areas of parenthood has been learning how to implement discipline. I love my kids, and I know I need to discipline them, but it’s hard to see them sad or upset. You walk a fine line between making them happy and initiating discipline. When they were younger, it was rare that they’d have to go into timeout, so as they got older, I had to figure out how to walk that line successfully. I know that for the benefit of our relationship and as the parent, I have to lay down some rules. I’ve watched them get sad at times because I told them they were grounded. It hurts me to see them sad, but I also know it will help them be stronger people. When they do something wrong, I don’t resort to yelling or getting angry. Instead, I talk to them. There’s more power in an open conversation than there is in a yelling match. Even when they misbehave, my kids know that I’ll love them no matter what — they’re going to get unconditional love from their dad. I’m lucky to have two incredible kids with whom I have great relationships. I’m so grateful for that. The best part of being a dad is having an unbreakable bond with these two people I brought into the world. For Father’s Day, it’s a tradition for the kids and me to go to a Sunday brunch somewhere nice. We may spend some time at the park afterward and walk around the neighborhood — all that really matters is that we’re together.

My dad was an auto body mechanic, and he worked a lot. I was disappointed that I didn’t get to have a strong relationship with him, and I made it a point to promise myself that, if I ever had kids, I wouldn’t be like him. I love to work, but I never wanted it to leave my kids wanting for attention. I always keep that at the forefront of my brain when I think about them. Today, I’m grateful to say that I have a strong relationship with my two kids. Parenthood is similar to many aspects of life in the sense that you have to invest time to make it successful. It takes effort, and it takes love. Any time you prioritize it, it strengthens your bond. “Even when they misbehave, my kids know that I’ll love them no matter what — they’re going to get unconditional love from their dad.”

Amiel Wade

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A cohesive vision for the future is central to any thriving company; it’s the road map by which you and your team steer the business to success. But a set of lofty goals isn’t quite enough to motivate and unify an organization. It’s important to have an overarching aim for the coming years, but you also need to provide some guidance on how your business should conduct itself today . You need core values that encourage a certain spirit for your team and hold them to a high standard of excellence. To build a set of core values that’s unique and valuable to your business, you must first decide whose input you want during the process. This should be a panel of the key players in your business and employees skilled at providing new and powerful ideas. Ensure that each of the members of your think tank embodies the qualities you want to see throughout your organization. Next, get everyone in a room to start brainstorming. Set a date for a meeting and encourage everyone to come prepared with a list of values they feel are the most important for your business. Ask your think tank which values are central to them as individuals and expand that to include values that are vital to your entire company. After you’ve got a healthy list of good ideas, combine and define them. Look for commonalities. It’s likely that many of them will orbit just a few key principles. After a bit of pruning and rewording, these principles become your core values. Once you’ve got your set of 5–10 main ideas, outline 3 KEYS TO MAKING CORE VALUES COUNT ESTABLISH THE GUIDING HEART OF YOUR BUSINESS

exactly what each of them means in a few sentences or a paragraph. You may want a skilled writer on board during this step to nail down a set of clear and compelling definitions. The process may be difficult, but once you’re done, you and your team will have a set of powerful, unifying core values. These will state your company’s purpose and drive your team to excellence. Core values may seem like a small consideration in the midst of day-to-day operations, but they can make an enormous difference.

‘THE ORIGINS OF HAPPINESS’ CHANGING OUR IDEAS OF SUCCESS

What is happiness? How can we encourage well-being in others? These are the sorts of questions that have kept philosophers busy since the dawn of human history. In “The Origins of Happiness,” a team of the world’s leading social scientists tackles these age-old mysteries. Their groundbreaking findings may change the workplace and public policy.

charm, and wisdom in spades. With their down-to-earth prose, the authors dissect complex arguments and strip long-held beliefs to their core assumptions. The result is a methodical yet enjoyable exploration of what it means to live well in today’s world. While it’s designed to help policymakers quantify and boost the satisfaction of their citizens, there is something for everyone in “Origins.” The chapters on success and happiness in children are of particular interest to parents and educators, for example. Business owners and managers should be especially interested in the book’s >Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4

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